Why Staying Single Over 50 in Southeast Asia Makes Sense

Why Staying Single Over 50 in Southeast Asia Makes Sense

Hey guys, if you are over 50 and thinking about coming out to Southeast Asia and thinking about dating or settling down here, you know, a lot of foreigners come out here to Southeast Asia hoping for romance, but many eventually kind of figure out that staying single actually makes a lot of sense. And so, in today’s video, I’m going to break down why staying single over 50 in Southeast Asia can give you the freedom the peace and lifestyle you’ve been dreaming of. Stick around for today’s video. [Music] We both know. All right, guys. So, we’ll just jump right into it. So, number one for me is freedom and flexibility. Since being single, I have figured out that I really do just enjoy being free and flexible. Like, I don’t have to go off of anyone else’s schedule anymore. If I want to go somewhere, uh, wake up at a certain time, eat at a certain time, watch a certain movie, whatever, I have the freedom and the flexibility to do so. You know, cuz when you’re single, you decide where you want to live, what neighborhood, what condo, what city, what country. You know, maybe I’m here one year in Thailand, maybe the next year you’re in the Philippines, or you’re in Vietnam or Cambodia. And there’s really no need to compromise with a partner. Your time is yours. Travel, you know, your hobbies, even sleeping in, it all is dictated around your life. You know, your what you want to do. Nobody’s dictating your schedule. And for me, I think this has been like one of the best things is that I just simply I wake up and I alone determine what I want to do for that day and uh where I want to go, what I want to do and uh nobody else and I really like it. And I think a lot of foreigners after they’ve been in relationships for a long time, maybe a lot of foreigners come from the west and they’ve just gotten out of these long marriages uh divorce and they come over here and they think, “Yeah, let me find a a good Filipina partner or uh Thai or whatever and they start dating and they start to realize, you know what, women are women everywhere. Now, they may be better looking, sweeter. Uh maybe they’re more feminine here and they don’t mind cooking and doing the cleaning or whatever. But they still your time is still dictated a lot in part by another person, you know, on where you want to go, keeping them happy, and you know, what do they want to do as well during that day? What do you want to eat? you know, so and a lot of them kind of figure out later on that, you know, I could have the best of both worlds, just date, um, possibly have a relationship at some point, but, uh, there’s no hurry for it and just enjoy the single life. And number two for me would be avoiding relationship complications. So, let’s be honest. Many relationships out here in Southeast Asia involve big age gaps, cultural differences, and financial expectations. And when you’re single, you don’t really need to worry about any kind of financial expectations other than paying for the date or, you know, what have you. You know, a lot of foreigners end up in situations where they’re pressured to support not just the girlfriend, but her entire extended family. Now, you’re paying uh you want her to be with you full-time, so you ask her to leave her job. Now, you’re paying her salary, maybe a little more spending money. Now, maybe some money goes out to her family. Maybe she wants to start a little clothing business on the side, some online clothes or something. Uh, then we got to dish a little money out for that. Another family member has an oh, her father just had a heart attack. You know, what are you going to do? Say no to giving some money out to her father? Most foreigners find that very difficult to do. And with good reason. I mean, if this is your girlfriend, fiance, or wife, how are you going to say no to that? And, you know, if you stay single, you avoid those potential stress points. And it has been nice not having to worry about that. Number three is financial control. You know, after 50, protecting your savings and your retirement funds is crucial. And it’s nice that I can spend my money on me and what I want to do. And I can also make sure that I’m investing a lot more than I was before. And that’s also very nice. So when I get older, perhaps I don’t have to do uh this or do that. I can just kind of concentrate on uh on building that nest egg even further. Staying single means you have complete control over your money. And you should anyway, even if you’re in a relationship here, but that’s not always the case because there’s pressure that you know, okay, let me give her this amount. Well, make sure she does the grocery shopping. Uh I’ll give her this amount to handle this or or what have you. It’s nice to have 100% complete control over your money. no unexpected expenses tied to romance. And number four would be health and peace of mind. At this age, honestly, stress can do more harm than good. And I have found that uh me personally, not everyone, uh even in a good relationship, there can be unwanted stress. Um the stress of keeping her happy, disagreeing over this, disagreeing over that. And you know when it’s just you, you know, I don’t really get into arguments uh with myself. I I can’t that most of you guys are getting into arguments or stressing about things with yourself. Maybe things outside, but uh within yourself usually not, you know, and I have found that drama-filled relationships just aren’t worth the toll. And being single also lets you focus on your health. gym, beach walks, healthy eating without distractions. And number five would be social life and community. Single life doesn’t mean lonely. I think a lot of people to this day, they envision single and they just automatically think you’re lonely. I’ve never had a bigger network of friends. In fact, I have more friends here and I spend more time hanging out with friends and also, you know, having dates and I have more of a social life now and I feel less stressed than really at any point in my life and that is a fantastic feeling to have. So, there’s expat communities all over Southeast Asia and they are strong. They’re in the Philippines, they’re in Vietnam, they’re here in Thailand and Bangkok. have discovered several groups that meet. Just going to your favorite uh place to listen to music. Other expats go there and you strike up a conversation. It’s very easy to meet uh people here. You know, you got motorbike trips, you got barbecues, you got trivia night at the pub and just all kinds of different things that you can do. And like Vietnam, you can go to language exchange, which was a great place for me to socialize and meet Viet Vietnamese people and then other expats also helping out. And yeah, it was it was great. And you can do that in a lot of different countries. Even here in Thailand, they have uh language exchange as well. So, I found that you can build some pretty deep friendships here. Travel groups, you know, you hook up with buddies and say, “Yeah, I’m going to go to Cambodia.” Oh, hey, do you mind if I tag along? Then there you go. You got a a buddy to travel with. Or even just keep dating casually if you want without long-term strings. And number six would be redefining happiness. And what I’ve discovered is that for many guys over 50, happiness comes from freedom, peace, and choosing your own path, not necessarily from a relationship. Staying single let you live authentically without compromise. And uh that has been amazing. So, in closing, I just want to mention that if you’re over 50 and you’re considering life out here in Southeast Asia, again, wherever, Philippines, Thailand, Vietnam, Cambodia, wherever. Remember, staying single is not a failure. I I know when people come up to me sometimes say, “Yeah, I’ve been happily married for 10 years.” Come back and I’ll say, “Yeah, I’m happily single.” You know, because again, I think there’s like this stereotype that if you’re single, you’re lonely. And that is not the case. In fact, I find single people sometimes are much happier. At least in my experience anyway. I know a lot of married guys unhappy. Yeah, I I know married guys that are are are also happy, too. So, I’m not saying that you can’t find happiness within a a relationship. It doesn’t have to be marriage. I I’m not going to venture down that path again myself. I’m okay with a long-term relationship, even a live-in at some point if the right one came along. But for me to make it legal and uh have some legal document involved in it, that’s not going to happen ever again. And I think a lot of people that come from the west probably have been through a divorce and don’t even want to go through that again. So again, staying single is not a failure. It can actually be one of the smartest choices that you make. I really feel that freedom, peace of mind, and adventure are waiting if you’re single. I again not to say that you can’t have that if you’re in a relationship. If you’re in a right relationship, somebody that really meshes well with you, it’s possible, of course. But you don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy. You can be single and still have a great life, let me tell you. And again, you don’t need a relationship to to enjoy, you know, to enjoy life. You don’t. So, let me know guys in the comments. Do you agree or do you think life is better with a partner here out in Southeast Asia? I’d love to hear your experience. Let me know guys uh down in the comments. Single, married, or maybe just a relationship but no legal relationship as in no marriage. Guys, if you haven’t checked out my website, check it out. Uh I’ve got a lot of great affiliates down in the description. Also, the pin comment on my website on the main page. There is a moving or traveling out to Southeast Asia PDF that you can download, print, uh, or just read through it with clickable links to help you with your journey, whether again travel or living out here to make it that much smoother. And check out my geot travel essentials for all the gear I recommend for living or traveling out here in Southeast Asia. Appreciate it, guys. If you found this video useful, please give me the thumbs up. If you haven’t subscribed, subscribe. and share this if you think somebody else could find this information useful as well. Thank you guys and I’ll see you in the next video. Ciao. [Music] Oh. Oh. Oh. [Music] Sun and set. I need coffee. 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