I Got a Letter: “I Come From Denmark and I’m An Expert On Thai Women.”

I Got a Letter: “I Come From Denmark and I’m An Expert On Thai Women.”

Hey I’m Scott and I am an American in Bangkok and today I got a letter I do have a letter but before I get started please do me a favor click like click subscribe hit join look down in the description anywhere and remember that if you need

Some help I’m here for you just give me an email at an American in Bangkok gmail.com I’ve been here for almost 30 years years and I believe in almost all cases I can help you to do whatever it is you need in your journey to Thailand

In your journey whatever it may be so let me get started here I got this letter and it says this is a bit scattered from this guy but he says thank you for the videos I enjoy them very much I live in Denmark and I had a long-term relationship with a Danish

Woman we were married and had children however we broke up after we divorced I met a Thai woman here in Denmark she had a Danish passport for many years and she is the one who introduced me to Thailand I have gone to Thailand for many years on my holidays

For family and fun and to learn the language the Eon language okay good for you I have learned much and now I have my feet in both Denmark and Thailand I give advice about Thailand to farang here okay um let me just go on because I

Don’t know what I think about this but I give advice to men here who think Thai women are good for them some of them think Thai women are easy this is not the case but I the adviser and I try to help people good work from you but you

Forget to tell the story from the thae side listen pal I don’t forget a damnn thing okay the tie side doesn’t matter as much as are you getting what you want does it fit your lifestyle that’s the thing I don’t care what this girl thinks I don’t

Care what she likes I mean obviously you care but you only care to a point you got to does it fit in your own guidelines that’s how it goes uh thank you for your kind words I wrote them back of course but I feel I must set you

Straight on a few things I’ve been living here for almost 30 years I am not a tourist like you I don’t go back and forth between the US and Thailand or the Denmark and Thailand and I have been with far too many Thai women to count there is a huge difference between

Taking part in the dating or pay for play scenes and having a thae girlfriend in Denmark from what you have told me your experience is extremely limited you are giving men advice based on your one relationship with a Thai woman living in Denmark your trips to Thailand and what

You have heard from her and others now as far as telling things from the thae side I usually do not tell stories from the tie side because first I am not Thai and second because it is more important to worry about what you want what you need and what you expect

Before considering what the woman wants call me selfish I’m not selfish honestly but you have have your own criteria you have your own boundaries your own guidelines and you want a woman who fits into those guidelines now if she doesn’t fit in she’s not what you want then what do you

With her for I mean you know you want a little fun okay fine but if you want more than that this is not the woman for you uh instead of going into the relationship worrying about what the woman wants or needs it is important to

Know what you want and what you need and to set boundaries based on this what’s important is that the man and the woman woman are both happy allow me to explain if what she wants is inside the man’s boundaries fine if not then there’s going to be problems if a man

Goes outside of these boundaries to give a woman what he wants there’s a phrase for this codependent or as I like to say he then becomes a captain saaho it’s one thing to be generous and helpful it’s another to give what you don’t want to give or unable to give

Also where I come from you don’t need to treat a woman like she’s easy period women have a way of letting them know if they want to sleep with you uh and the last thing a man needs to do with a woman whatever nationality she is

Whether she’s a working girl or not is to treat her like trash uh this is more common courtesy than advice however there’s nothing wrong with a man trying to have sex with a woman as long as he understands the word no now he wrote me back

And uh I will read what he wrote he wrote me back two more times I respect you for having lived in Thailand for many years and what I think you miss is the Thai people live here in Denmark for many years and their thoughts about this

Subject why do I care about that many Danish men men here are totally into the business of having a thae lady Scott I just try to help first of all they shouldn’t need a lot of help there if the Thai women are in Denmark already they they already

Know the the scene and the men listen I’m sorry but you Danish men you Swedish men you Norwegian men whatever I mean all I’ve heard is a lot of negative stories and about how you guys end up with bar girls and all these other things and I don’t want to say it’s true

About the whole culture the whole society but you know uh it’s a bit it’s a bit too much really uh to me the cultural Gap there is a big issue you’re American I am from Europe both are based on Christian values even if we are not considered religion religious and that tradition is

What we have ties are different you think I am a novice about Thailand but I do not think so well I disagree I have many male friends and educated couples Tai and foreigners who have their own businesses and so forth forth okay it is not just bar girls as you

Think I keep it here and not send you long letter as you talk about take care and best wishes PS my experience is many people here have romantic relationships with ti okay I understand that uh guess the same as old immigrants from Denmark living in USA still think we

Have we here live in a Hans Christian Anderson Old Country I think that was about 50 years ago um yeah I don’t I don’t think that way anymore I think he’s just a famous author from Denmark and that’s about it I don’t give him too much uh

Credence I have no intention of finding another Thai woman I am fine here and have a girlfriend in Germany now I’m sure that works real well but I have friends in Thailand both Tha and Western people now my friend Joe from San Diego selling his medical practice and is

Moving to Thailand to retire he says any Foreigner moving to a foreign country should always have an Escape Plan well of course I say that also and I don’t know the situation here but whatever uh you are right about the Fang thing in your comment I hate to be

Called fang I know the word does not always carry a negative connotation but I always say I have a name too okay and as I said to this guy you do not live here you come back and forth every once in a while and your knowledge is by

Association not by living in the culture all the time every single day meeting up with people and running into people stumbling into relationships whatever it might be it’s not the same as spending two weeks in Thailand when you live your yearround there’s a big difference living and visiting living visiting living visiting

Not the same uh yeah that’s what I say you do not live here in your knowledge by association uh there is a huge difference between coming here in a holiday and living here just because you know Tai people in Denmark doesn’t mean you’ve experienced the ways of a Thai

Woman or Thai women or know much about Thailand people change when they immigrate to Western countries they become westernized and that is true uh I mean you know they still keep some of the qualities but they do change over because they have to morph into the culture that they’re moving to it really

Doesn’t matter though for what is most important is that we care about what we want set boundaries and stick to them many men who come here don’t do this whether with Tha bar girls or regular women they they think that they should just change and give them everything

They want and and uh try to work within the Thai system and sometimes you have to do that a little bit you have to capitulate and sometimes they need to understand you are not Tha so you need to work together on that they get swept away in a whirlwind lust Affair and

Before they know it they’re contemplating marriage or giving the girl everything they have to prove their love so of course he writes me back again right I do not live in Thailand but as I told you I have been there many times for 20 years now I have good friends

There okay you you’ve come here let’s say that you come here twice a year for 20 years that’s 40 times okay you gain a little experience you should be somewhat knowledgeable but you know what you’re from Denmark that right there that tells me a lot and anybody who doesn’t live there they know

What I’m talking about okay I don’t mean it’s a bad thing but I mean for some people who are Danish Swedish Norwegian Finnish whatever it is for some of them yeah they just don’t know the whole scene here and they don’t get it but anyway whatever uh I have good friends here but

I cannot settle there permanently I have a little problem with beautiful girls when I was younger and I admit this who doesn’t most men like beautiful women it doesn’t mean that you have to let it be a problem it means that maybe you have a

Few too many at once or whatever you you need to you need to make a decision which one do you want which ones do you want however it may be but you know whatever it shouldn’t be a problem now I see what happens when ties come to Denmark and I can see through

Almost everything many are former bar girls here well that tells me something many are former bar girls that’s what I’m saying a lot of a lot of Danish people end up with bar girls and then the bar girls they live there and they have a good life and they’re not with

The men they’re looking for their own man men whatever it is I may not know much but I can think for myself um I would say that your ability to think for yourself is somewhat scary the well-educated ties I know never think about moving to Western countries other people think here is wellfare

Available okay first of all that’s that’s a real uh to me that’s a real problem with how he’s thinking he doesn’t think that well-educated ties ever move abroad let me tell you my wife is constantly talking about moving over there the only reason we haven’t is

Probably because of my kids and the fact that I’m staunchly against it now I know many many many many ties who have moved over there I know them through her I know them because they are people that I know I know one who moved to Italy I

Know uh several who have moved to the United States I know some that have moved to uh the UK uh you know it’s just it goes on and on and on so please don’t tell me that the educated ties oh they all stay behind in Thailand no they don’t some do some

Don’t uh let me tell you a little story many years ago we were traveling to Patia this was before the big tourist boom well if it was 20 years ago it ain’t before the big tourist boom but eventually there were many Americans European tourists there I was in a

Relationship with a Thai woman I met here in Denmark I think it was just random that she was Tai anyway we were together many years we took many family members to meet paa meet and Patia many of whom had never been outside Ean one day my girlfriend took her 80-year-old

Father to a gogo bar and he was living it up again well why wouldn’t an 80-year-old have fun in a go-o bar if he was you know if if he wanted to to have a little bit of fun he surely could just because he’s 80 makes no difference we can never

Dream of this in my country okay so what’s the big story in your country old men don’t go to strip clubs first time for me at that time this was on my first trip to Thailand eight days in Patia three weeks in Northeast Ean between Conan and udon all right

Um to me this guy’s thoughts are like nails on a chalkboard and uh I’m not really try tell really I’m not sure what kind of point he’s trying to make from his story um but can a man learn about Thailand by coming here once a year of

Course uh but living in a country and being uh in continuous contact day after day having interactions and experiences with tight people is much much different than some someone who is a tourist who comes here even if you’re a tourist who comes here once or twice a

Year what strikes me is slightly odd is that based on his one relationship with a Thai woman he is giving advice to men I have always felt a bit strange about giving advice to people but at least I have almost 30 years here in the country and I have a little bit

Of knowledge stored away in here I have learned a thing or two and uh yeah I don’t even know what to say about this but I just think he’s a knucklehead he’s a chowder head and he’s he’s barking up the wrong tree I don’t know why he’s helping oh I know

All about Thailand I’ve been there like 20 times okay whatever okay do do what you want some people will never learn anyway I’m Scott I’m An American in Bangkok until next time chokey J and my that’s good luck and see you later

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